She just told you, "I'm pregnant." Now what?
Hearing the words “I’m pregnant” can feel like a sudden shock, especially if the pregnancy wasn’t planned. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed, confused, or even scared.
And guess what? That reaction is completely okay.
She’s probably feeling just as uncertain—if not more so. Whether she’s seeking your support or unsure of how you’ll respond, one thing is clear: this moment matters, and your response does too.
The most important thing right now is for her to know she’s not alone in this, and that starts with you. Take a deep breath, listen to her, and be present. Clear communication is key.
What You Can Do
Process Your Emotions: It’s completely okay to feel scared or uncertain. Take a moment to process your feelings, but don’t let them keep you from being there for her.
Talk Openly and Honestly: This is a significant decision for both of you. Have an open conversation about your options, share your thoughts clearly, and make sure you listen to hers as well.
Don’t Rush Decisions: Give yourselves the time you need to fully understand what’s happening. Taking time to think things through will lead to better choices.
Listen to Her: Her body is changing, her emotions are running high, and she’s carrying a lot of weight in this moment. Be her steady support through it all.
Next Steps in Your Dad Journey
You don’t have to go through this alone. At Skylark, we’re here to support you, answer your questions, and guide you through this decision—together. Whether you’re considering parenting, adoption, or other options, we offer honest information and compassionate care at every step.
- Contact us today to talk with a trusted client advocate. The next step doesn’t have to be overwhelming—let’s take it together.
- Check out our classes taught by men for men who can help you be the BEST dad you can be!
- Set up Dad to Dad Coaching (available to help you become the dad your kid deserves).
- Complete free classes, earn free stuff like diapers, a new car seat, and clothes for your child.
Did you know?
Fact #1: Infants whose dads play with them have good mental and social outcomes.
Fact #2: When men become dads and are involved in their children’s lives they transform in many ways. They are…
- Happier
- Have better physical and mental health
- Live longer
- Have less depression
- Have increased self-esteem
- More active in their community
- More involved with civic groups
- Moved to… adopt a healthier model of masculinity, reduce alcohol and substance use, find stable, secure jobs, better manage and save money, strengthen family ties
Fact #3: Children with involved dads have fewer behavioral problems in middle childhood and adolescence.
Fact #4: Children whose dads read to them develop better language skills.