If you have had a positive pregnancy test, it can feel like your whole life is about to change. Having a solid support system is critical for surviving major changes in life. No one wants to deal with everything alone. Many times, the best support system can be your parents – after all, they raised you! However, it may not be easy to share the big news.
Here are a few tips on sharing your pregnancy with those closest to you:
- Make a plan. Decide who you will tell this news to. Not everyone you know will have your best interests at heart, so it is important to choose people who will be supportive. Telling your parents may be too hard at first, so choose another family member or close friend who can help you share this information with your family.
- Timing is everything! Be sure that you are choosing the best time to break the news. If you think you may have a hard time saying the words, consider writing a handwritten note. Think about where you will tell them and if you will go alone or take someone with you. The best time to plan is a time when everyone is able to talk without interruption. Starting the conversation late at night or early in the morning when everyone is getting ready for work or school may not be the best time to talk.
- Don’t be afraid to share your feelings. Often when parents hear their child is pregnant, they may assume they already know your feelings about the pregnancy. It’s your responsibility to communicate how you feel – speak up! Letting your parents know what feelings you are experiencing helps them understand you better. In addition, making your feelings known may help ease the tensions if members of your family are pressuring you into a particular pregnancy decision.
- Be prepared for their reaction. You may be surprised by your parents’ reaction. It may take time for the reality of the situation to sink in, so give them time. If they react with judgmental or condemning words, remind them that this is a difficult time for you, and you need their support. If they try to pressure you into making a quick decision about parenting, adoption, or abortion, ask them to give you time to carefully consider all your options. In the end, you do not have control over how others will react to the news – you can only be responsible for doing your part by being open and honest with your family.
At Skylark, we understand that this can be a very stressful time for you. Our trained peer counselors are here to provide you with support, advice, and help while you are navigating this new journey in life. Please give us a call or schedule an appointment if you are needing additional support in sharing your pregnancy with loved ones. We want to walk alongside you on this journey.